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List of LGBTQ+ terms
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Abro (sexual and romantic)
A word used to characterize people who have a fluid sexual and/or passionate orientation which changes over time, or the course of their life. They may use different terms to describe themselves over time.
Ace
An umbrella term used specifically to describe a lack of, varying, or occasional experiences of sexual attraction. This encompasses asexual people as well as those who identify as demisexual and grey-sexual. Ace people who experience passionate attraction or occasional sexual attraction might also employ terms such as same-sex attracted, bi, lesbian, straight and queer in conjunction with asexual to describe the direction of their passionate or sexual attraction.
Ace and aro/ace and aro spectrum
Umbrella terms used to explain the wide group of people who experience a lack of, varying, or occasional experiences of intimate and/or sexual attraction, including a lack of attraction. People who identify under these umbrella terms may describe themselves using one or more of a wide variety of terms, including, but not limited to, asexual, ace, aromantic, aro, demi, grey, and abro. People may also use terms such as gay,
The Club by Jarek Steele
The club is situated in a warehouse district proximate downtown St. Louis, a low building with turn-of-the-century brickwork that looks enjoy every other low brick building in the metropolis, surrounded by weedy parking lots and rusty chain link fences. When my friend Steven invited me to soak in the hot tub with him there, I had to Google it to form sure it was what I thought it was. Honestly, I’d thought that bathhouses were a relic of the Time Before, when men ducked into gay saunas to possess anonymous sex without the fear of AIDS. I grew up in the eighties and nineties and knew only the Hour After, when the crusades to shut them down in cities like San Francisco and New York underscored the fear of the plague and the drive to exterminate queerness rather than caring for the sick. That terror crept into my Midwestern Southern Baptist existence and made every queer person a gay man, wasting away, an ominous cautionary tale, body poison to everyone around him. I could only see the view from the TV at the Days Inn, where I cleaned rooms; from there, queer pleasure was as removed—as irrelevant—as Broadway, Wall Street, and Hollywood. It sparkled in this forbidden way.
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After recovering from my last breakup, I decided to get on the apps (the dating and fling apps, that is). Homosexual hookup apps allow you to state your sexual preferences: are you a top, bottom, versatile, and so forth. As I was creating my first profile, on Scruff, this option gave me pause.
How do I identify? For me, as a transgender man, this question has always required some extra unpacking. Think of a prank birthday present, where the gift is placed in a box that’s been wrapped in multiple layers of duct tape, which has been placed in a box that’s been wrapped in multiple layers of duct tape…and so on. If the gift I’m unpacking is my “true identity,” then the duct tape is society’s expectations of me, and the boxes are the labels that I pass through and discard along the way.
For example: the first person I came out to as trans was one of my exes—a lesbian who I’d been with for three years. I knew on an intuitive level that she (and others, such as certain family members) would be resistant to the idea of me identifying as a man and transitioning. Since I was not prepared for our relationship to end, I turned a blind eye to my intense chest and decrease dysphoria, a
Out On The Couch
By Jacob Rostovsky, MA
Keywords: Gay, Non-binary, Penis
For some individuals, to be a transgender male (someone who is assigned female at birth and identifies as male) in this time is difficult enough. But when you add in identifying as gay (attracted to men and identifying as male), it can make existence even more difficult. As a transgender gay male, I know this first hand. As a therapist who has worked with many transgender men who also identify as homosexual, I know that it is common for male lover trans men to life a flooding of thoughts when being out in the gay male group. Some of these involve anxiety and fear, especially when going to bars and clubs. Most of these clients share the fear that not having a penis could set them in a precarious situation. Their thoughts generally fall into the monitoring themes:
- Would someone find out they don’t have a penis?
- Would someone hurt them, or even sexually assault them, because they don’t have a penis?
- Will they be able to leave to the bathroom without worry and bother?
- Is someone going to make rude comments, or fetishizing ones, or tell them they don’t belong?
- How much of their night is going to be spent in
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